Is your Loss too big?
When someone dies or we go through something traumatic like a divorce, the grief associated with the event is very different for each person. Why? It has to do with each person’s spiritual beliefs, their relationship with the person involved, if it’s the first time they are going through this, what kind of support system they have and many other reasons. Basically, it’s all about our perspective at the time. There is no right or wrong way to grieve! The amount of the loss might seem all encompassing to the person going through it or it may not affect them much at all. Sometimes it takes anywhere from months to years for the effects to kick in and hit the person. This is because we all have different coping skills and they work differently for each individual!
There is no right or wrong way to grieve!
In my opinion and experience, I find the sooner you deal with the emotions coming up, the better off you will be. We need to express our feelings and there are many ways to do that. Here is a short list:
Journaling is a great way to get out your thoughts and feelings where you can go back and reread it at a later time when you are more objective.
Join a grief support group
Go out into Nature and let her heal you-it’s an amazing thing we forget to do for ourselves.
Talk to friends and people who will listen and not try to “fix” you. If no one is available, hire a therapist or a coach. It is an investment in yourself!
Take up dancing, bowling or some kind of social sport where you get your mind off what is going on and are doing something physical at the same time. It’s amazing how healing this is.
Just remember, no one can know the shoes that you walk in, it’s not their business and sometimes they just don’t know what to say. But, I can guarantee you, that you are cared for by people who just don’t know what to say but mean the best. I can also assure you, that you WILL get through this. It is possible to Heal Your Spirit and live a life of joy, even with the whole in your heart!
For more information on Life After Grief Coach,
Rev. Laura Beers,
or call 321-751-4766.